I Stories

Over the years GL has demonstrated a commitment to gender justice and equality by efforts to create opportunities and provide spaces for survivors of all forms of gender violence to speak out, participate in various conversations and document their experiences through I-Stories.

South Africa: My children also growing in shelters

*Trigger warning: violence*
My name is Lebo (not a real name) I never knew my parents. I grew up in children homes. The last children’s home I was at is Harding KZN. I stayed there when I was a teenager. I met my boyfriend, the father of my first child. He was working at the children’s home as a caretaker. He approached me and I was falling in love with him. We would see each other secretly without the knowledge of any house mothers at the children’s home or ant staff member. We dated for about 5 years while I was staying at the home. In 2010 I fell pregnant for him, at that time I was about to be 18 years old. The house mothers at the home noticed that I was not getting my periods at the same time I was gaining weight.

December 10, 2014 Themes: Gender violence Programs: 16 Days of Activism 2014 | Gender Justice

Zimbabwe: I toiled for their family

Zimbabwe: I toiled for their family

*Trigger warning: Violence*
Charles* and I got married in 2005 and had a baby daughter in 2006. My husband refused to get a birth certificate for the child as he claimed the baby was not his. We were living with Charles’ older brother, who was married. My husband did not see it fit to hand any money to me for house-keeping, for he claimed that I was stealing it from him! He would, instead, give all his earnings to his brother’s wife who would distribute it as she saw fit. I usually did not have enough for food or clothes. My sister-in-law dictated all the household matters and I had to dance to her tune.

December 10, 2014 Programs: 16 Days of Activism 2014 | Gender Justice

South Africa: My terrible childhood

South Africa: My terrible childhood

*Trigger warning: Violence*
It started when I was young around grade 1 or 2. My dad started beating us up with shambok. He tied us up with handcuffs. He used to beat us up for little things (e.g. not answering him) we did not answer him because we had nothing to say. At one time he beat us up because he suspected that me and my sister were sleeping with boys. He would beat us up until we said yes we did. My sisters’ face was cut open with a shambok. He took us to the clinic; he told us to lie to the nurse that my sister fell and her face cut open while we were playing in a scrap car. My grandmother would stick up for us, he will slap her on the face and she will fall on the ground.

December 10, 2014 Themes: Child Abuse Programs: 16 Days of Activism 2014 | Gender Justice

Moçambique: Um Corredor de TrÁ¡fico de Seres Humanos

Moçambique: Um Corredor de TrÁ¡fico de Seres Humanos

Maputo, 9 de Dezembro: O trÁ¡fico de seres humanos em Moçambique estÁ¡ a atingir nÁ­veis alarmantes e tem nas pessoas do sexo feminino, o seu principal grupo alvo.
O negócio de seres humanos, no PaÁ­s, é visto como altamente lucrativo, devido Á s fragilidades de segurança nos postos fronteiriços, aos elevados Á­ndices de pobreza e ao baixo nÁ­vel de instrução das vÁ­timas preferenciais dos criminosos.
A organização mundial de migração e o departamento de migração dos Estados Unidos da América, num relatório conjunto, divulgado o ano passado, jÁ¡ colocavam Moçambique como ponto de trânsito e destino de homens, mulheres e crianças sujeitos ao trabalho forçado e Á  exploração sexual.
A Organização Mundial de Migração considera ainda que o facto de Moçambique partilhar fronteiras com muitos paÁ­ses da região austral, tornam o paÁ­s altamente vulnerÁ¡vel Á s migraçÁµes irregulares e descontroladas.

South Africa: His mother helped him abuse me

South Africa: His mother helped him abuse me

*Triger warning: Violence*
My name is *Thembi. I never knew my parents. I grew up in S.O.S children village in PMB. We were staying there with my brother. Because of my low mentality I could not be send to a normal school. I was sent to a special school. One day I was going to the shop to buy ice block since it was hot that day when a man I use to see in the shop approached me. We then we fell in love. I used to go to the shop so that I can see him. I loved him but I did not want to have sex with him and I told him that.

South Africa: We walked to school barefooted

South Africa: We walked to school barefooted

*Trigger warning: Violence*
My name is *Zinzile Zulu. I grew up living with my parents and brother in a poor home. My brother and I used to walk barefooted to school, until the feet become very sore in winter; we had cuts on our heels. That was very hard for us. Other children used to laugh at us and make fun of us for not having shoes. And that our feet were cut, this made me feel very sad and embarrassed. Our father used to drink a lot of alcohol while at home there was no food to eat.

South Africa: He wanted to kill me and my children

*Trigger warning: Violence*
My name is Ntombi Ndlovu, I grew up living with my mom and dad in a polygamous marriage. The first wife had her own homestead and children with my dad. I had 3 half-sisters and 2 half-brothers. My father used to drink a lot of alcohol. He didn’t provide for us rather he used to spend all his money with the senior wife. We used to struggle at home without food to eat; we would get help from the neighbours.

December 9, 2014 Themes: Gender violence Programs: 16 Days of Activism 2014 | Gender Justice

Moçambique: Associação de defesa de minorias sexuais clama por legalização e consideração

Moçambique: Associação de defesa de minorias sexuais clama por legalização e consideração

Maputo, 5 de Dezembro: Homofobia ou o preconceito contra as pessoas de orientação sexual minoritÁ¡ria, como é o caso dos homossexuais, estÁ¡ a atingir contornos alarmantes na sociedade moçambicana para além de aumentar a violência baseada no género GBV no mundo.

Moçambique: Homossexualidade – Quando a escolha da orientação sexual fere a “norma ” Social

Moçambique: Homossexualidade – Quando a escolha da orientação sexual fere a “norma ” Social

Maputo, 5 de Dezembro: A homossexualidade tradicionalmente considerada um comportamento desviante e sancionado pela sociedade, tem tido nas últimas décadas, uma maior divulgação, bem como, uma tentativa de reconhecimento e integração na sociedade moderna o que entra em choque com a maioria que considera a heterossexualidade uma relação a ser reconhecida como uma norma de orientação sexual.

South Africa: Abuse led me to drugs

South Africa: Abuse led me to drugs

*Trigger warning: Violence*

My name is Karabo (not my real name). My mother was sick and so I had to stay with my aunt. They sent me to Ozwathini to my father’s family to stay with my father. I did not know that my father was mentally ill. My father was so sick at that time, and he passed away. After his burial they chased me out and I had nowhere to go. I then decided to come back to Pietermaritzburg where I met my boyfriend Spinach who is the father of my child. I decided to stay with him. At first we were fine because we were both drinking. The problem started when he forced me to have sex with him every day even if I didn’t want to. He would force me to sleep with him and as result I fell pregnant.

Lesotho: It happened once but it was cruel abuse

Lesotho: It happened once but it was cruel abuse

*Trigger warning: Violence*
It was the 28th July 2012 and we were coming home from a funeral and it became dark while we were still on the way. I was with two other women; it was not that dark as people were still walking around. When we were still walking we heard somebody whistling but we did not hear where it was coming from and we just continued with our journey.

South Africa: My true story

South Africa: My true story

*Triger warning: Violence*

It was 201, when I was staying with my aunt (Thobile), where she was renting. I used to come back home from school before her as she knocked off from work at 16:30. One day I was from school and I was feeling hot so I decided to take a bath, as I was bathing the guy who we rented with came in the bathroom and i told him I was busy bathing, he just walked in, as the door couldn’t be locked. He came in and he raped me and as he was busy raping me one of the tenants walked in and saw what he was doing, he threatened her not to tell anyone and he ran away.