Anthony, Chantal

Anthony, Chantal


Date: March 31, 2016
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My life has changed

I have learnt a lot from Gender Links (GL) on violence issues. I was myself a battered woman before. I did not have the joy of living. This course has challenged me in various ways. In fact, I have joined GL in 2013. I have completed the three phrases of the course. I have mostly appreciated the sharing of ideas. No one at GL sets themselves apart from the group. There is a common accord and a mutual support. Everyone shares their own problems. We can know the weaknesses of people. This has touched me a lot. I could not expose my life with anyone before not even with my husband. There was no dialogue at home. Nothing is of less interest at GL. Before that course at GL, I did a lot of social work during 49 years and I am still doing it. This course has helped me to know what good communication at home is. Before, I was a person very withdrawn on myself.  At GL, this sense of trust and ties of friendship has made me not consider myself as elderly. Instead I put myself on the same level as everyone. Or else, I am actually following a course at the University for the elderly people. I will get my graduation this December 2015. I know that by myself, I will not have reached that level. I want to learn. We never stop learning from others. Actually I am learning computer, Italian, photography, history of Mauritius and food and nutrition. This course at GL has helped me to be where I am today. When I got married, my life was difficult. I was not open to others as I am now. All the merits go to GL. I have married a widow with his five children and then I got two sons. My husband is eight years older than I am. To grow up seven children was not easy at all. I have shed a lot of tears. I started to face a lot of domestic violence since I got married.  Now, all our children are grown up and I am living alone with my husband. I can say now after all these years of marriage in my old age that I am somewhat living under ties of trust with my husband. Violence in my wedding life has much decreased but not completely. There are some things that I can’t relate to my husband due to his habit of violence. His children have always contributed to conflict between him and I. We did a family meeting and now it’s okay. He also sees that I have changed due to this friendly relationship at GL. Gender Links has helped me to take my responsibilities and have good contacts. I am now very proud of me. At GL, I have learnt how to stand up in life. My plan for the future is to make baby clothes. I am planning to make this dream come true next month. GL has encouraged me to develop new ideas. Thanks to GL!