Madagascar: Rasoanirina Beby Euphrasie

Madagascar: Rasoanirina Beby Euphrasie

Date: April 26, 2016
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I am Rasoanirina Euphrasie. I live in Namoraha Atsimo. Here is my story. I have had big problems in my life of gender based violence. In the past, my husband did not give any money and my in-laws intruded on my household life.

I am married women and we have one child. My husband is fifty. I was only twenty when I married him. Because of this big age difference, my in-laws didn’t trust in me. I didn’t know anything about what my husband owned, about his lands, about his rice field, or anything. It seems that I was just taken to help and take care of him. Actually, a maid gets paid every month but me, I had to give back everything to him, even the changes when I was sent to buy something. I was suffering! I was worried every day.

Then one friend told me: There are some solutions at CECJ, and I went. So I went to that centre. The people at the Centre ensured that our talk would be kept secret. I told them about my living conditions. Then there was a time to enroll twenty people who are experiencing abuse for a training offered by Gender Links. I joined the training since the year 2013. And I found it was good for me, so I did my best to attend all the phases they invited me to. Many topics were interesting. . My husband noticed that I was so interested, and he started having problems, but I explained to him that I won’t have him arrested but I just need training to help me improve my daily life, so he was convinced and accepted. Then I started to find some income-generating activities. I bought a little pig, I bred it since I like a lot breeding, and that helped in my financial resources.

Now, after taking some decisions and using the training I took from Gender Links, I am a free person. I no longer endure the different kinds of abuse. I can give advice to those who are in trouble. My parents also enjoy the advantages. My child and my husband didn’t use to talk, they hardly share anything, but now they can discuss about my child’s studies. They talk about daily life, football match and it doesn’t end with a quarrel, each can choose his favorite team. Our unique child really likes football. And there is something around it I don’t understand very well. I feel I heard, to my surprise, they talk about a change in our life, because they see we are like wealthy people.

I want to tell you here that my neighbors are astonished. They could see a great change on me. However, I want to note that despite these changes, nothing affected my social relations with the neighbors. We get along well with each other. We sometimes discuss, for example, on “How did you do? Could you give us some advice because we don’t know what to do! And yet we see you are progressing a lot lately. And others ask, “You often go out with a handbag or a purse. Where do you go? Are you back to school? Tell us and don’t keep it secret.” And that is what we talk about between friends when we meet on the road where we pass days and nights. Then, I had to tell them, “I didn’t go back to school, but I am taking good advice from Gender Links. Actually there is one important change they have noticed in my life, and that is why they talk and ask. We built a brick house, coated with cement. The construction started in 2014 and finished this year 2015.