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0 thoughts on “I don’t see myself in a polygamous marriage”
My name is Linda and was unfortunately born from a polygamistic relationship. I am now 30 and my father died when I was 12. Life was not ideal but because we did not know any better, it was normal. My mother was the younger wife and when my father died, we were left with nothing. No money for food and worst nothing saved up for our education. The normallity of the situation changed and the older wife who was civil when my father was still alive and my other siblings pretended not to have ever known us. At the funeral we were sitting quietly at the back and left before anyone noticed us. From that day on, life changed. Even though my father was juggling a business and two households, he was there and alive.
I feel like I have been disadvantaged as compared to my other siblings. 18 years later, I have my own family and I am doing well finacially in my own right but I can never erase the emotional scars that I have dating back to my childhood. I have questions that no one is willing to answer.
Polygamy is not a good idea no matter how much people can justify it. Culturally we need to move forward and understand that it might have worked in the stone age, but in this day and age there are too many demands on a person to be able to meet all the wives and kids needs.
I still look at myself and think I am more fortunate because my mother is educated and she managed to take us to school.